❦Suddenly Delicate❦

pink-haired-secretary:

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Why is it okay if I speak out about it?
Am I not allowed to express feeling or emotion? You see, back when I was friends with STAK, everyone else was allowed to talk bad about her, and I’d deal with it- but when I do it, it suddenly becomes a crime? Now, don’t take me as a victim, I know what I’m doing, I understand that I’m pretty much taking a shit on her, but am I doing it to make you all sad?

No, not really.
I’m simply getting my frustrations out, just like any normal being would do, via blogging. I very well could write it in a journal, but there is a small piece in my nature that is begging that someone knows what this feels like, and well- a journal can’t relate, the most it can do is chill out and let me tear into it.

I forgot where I was going with this, so I’ll leave you that.
If you want me to stop, sure- I’ll do it, I respect you and a few others well enough to cease my activity.

I don’t think that it suddenly starts being a crime. But then, that was why I mostly tried not to do it where the people who did like her could see it.

But it’s the blanket statements you’ll make along with the shit-talking that’s making me sad. Like with the thing on FB about “if you can’t handle X/Y/Z language, you’re too young/immature to be on here, so get off my flist”—that makes me sad. Because to me, that reads like saying, ‘hey, Bugsy, you’re old and sensitive to old-fashioned things, gtfo.’ And maybe that’s reading into it, but it’s just like the blanket statements she’ll make that pissed you off—the “everyone’s going to leave me/everyone hates me.” The people who’re lumped in that it isn’t meant to include get hurt.

I don’t think you have to like her, and hell, you can make posts about not liking her if you really want to, but in general, I think singling her out—especially by name—is in bad taste. Especially when it’s in a place where the only people who will see it that do know her get put in a position where they can either be quiet, and let you rant, and be a ‘bad friend’ to her because they’re ‘letting’ you say things without speaking up, and see other people agreeing with you about it. And when the posts you’re making aren’t totally accurate, I just… I don’t know. There’s shit talking someone about something they’re actively doing, and then there’s making it sound like they’re doing something else, and I don’t think that’s right.

I think the main problem with blogging it on your Tumblr is that you have so many overlapping friends—which, I mean, the same problem pops up when it’s on Facebook. Any time it’s in public, it just adds a messy element. Just like the status you saw on her account, where people were telling her things like, ‘yeah! Don’t let that person get you down! They’re stupid!’ and you were saying, ‘Oh, but they wouldn’t say that if they knew it was me.’ You’re right. They wouldn’t say it like that. But they shouldn’t be afraid to speak out if they don’t agree with what you’re doing.

It’s just upsetting seeing you post about her, because I don’t agree with all of it, but I can sympathize with you to a point—and then seeing Cheren, and Tween, and Host getting upset just really gets to me. Especially when a bunch of unrelated people start chiming in and agreeing with you when they don’t know her. I know I’m a stupid idealist for wanting everyone to get along, but hey, that’s me. And if we can’t all get along, I guess it just seems like resolving some/most/any of it behind closed doors would be the best thing for everyone else involved.

Edit: And no, I’m not saying that you can’t express your feelings. I think you should, and I think it’s good to vent—but I guess ultimately, the name-dropping, and the way that it’s hurting people tangentially involved is what I’m uncomfortable with. But you say, ‘hey, your options are deal with it or gtfo’, and that makes me sad. Because it ends up seeming like you’d rather hate on her, even at the cost of upsetting the people you still do care about, who care about you.